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Never in a million years would I ever tell anyone, widowed or otherwise, when to engage in intimacy with a partner.
To me, this is among the most intensely personal and private decisions that one can make.
In my most humble opinion, it actually gets better but only if you have the widow-tude that it can get better. If you decide that physical intimacy won't be the same (which I can only imagine translates into, "as good as it was before"), then you are right. As the saying goes: If you think you can, you can, and if you think you can't, you're right.
I honestly don't know where people get it in their heads that physical intimacy (or the need for physical intimacy) diminishes or goes away altogether. I don't ever want you to think of the years without a man in your life as "wasted" years.
To address her own need and that of millions of other widows like her, Fleet launched Widows Wear Stilettos, a nonprofit organization and website, in 2006. Foster a place where widows could find the help and support they needed.
In the new book , she shares thousands of questions and answers from her site, addressing everything from dealing with grief, to handling the holidays, to finances, to dating.
In her own time of pain, Fleet felt her resources were few, limited mostly to grief books that, she feared, would keep her stuck in a state of sorrow, unable to move on.
Romantic love is a central expression of a good, meaningful, and flourishing life.
Without love and desire, many people feel that a large part of them is dead.
What I have actually found at the heart of questions such as these is a deeply held fallacy, a myth that has existed for far too long. Remember—the love that you have for your late husband will never ever go away. However, you are also not destined to remain in everlasting mourning, that is not why you are here.
Too many of you feel that by dating again or falling in love again or becoming intimate again, even though you are not really cheating per se, you feel as though you are either cheating on the life that you had with your husband or that you are diminishing or disrespecting his memory. You have already learned that: You Can Honor Your Past. If you choose it, living a life of abundance includes companionship, love, and yes, physical intimacy, which is an important and beautiful expression of that love.
Remember, in order to have a fulfilling relationship with another, you must be content with yourself in your own right, as an individual.